We can all admit that dating can be hard on your health. If you are among the 1 in 10 Americans searching for love online you may be experiencing strain on your health from the stress of the search and the potential ailments associated with intimacy. Rather than let these negative side effects of dating get to you, here are tips for prevention of the worst outcomes and ways to get the most out of online dating.
For some, online dating can be an easier entrance into the wider world of dating for individuals who haven’t had a chance to socialize much. The ever-important profile and pictures give viewers a snapshot of who you are, and with the help of some good friends to check it over, you can create a profile that highlights your best sides.
Make a list of things you like about yourself. This can be very revealing. What are your best qualities? Would others see them? Share this list with a trusted friend to review. They will notice things about you that you don’t. Add to the list of your best traits. When you are ready begin to turn this list into a profile. Have that same friend review once more.
Some individuals can find ways of showing their personality on dating sites that allow people to get to know the real them rather than make snap judgments. For some with visible disabilities, such as an assisted mobility device, showing photos of you being active shows that you are not limited by your health needs.
The power of the photo cannot be underestimated. A boring pic can be as damning as a bad profile, or worse. Some users only look at pictures. If that person sees your profile picture, will they stop and read further? Make sure your pic is compelling enough to appeal!
Too Much, Too Soon?
The profile only says so much, of course. It’s an invitation to chat, not a biography. Those of you with the habit to talk need to curb it for the profile. There is plenty of time to get to know each other once you set the scene.
Then again, sometimes the stress centers on knowing what to say and when, as well as how much to reveal. Rather than putting your life story into a profile, get to know your new potential partner and discover their opinions before discussing anything too personal, such as health conditions. Don’t be afraid to protect your heart by being cautious.
Just as in relationships that begin face-to-face, it is important to eventually be completely honest about life circumstances such as marital status, illness/disability, if you have children, etc., while also finding ways to bring it up at the right time. There are articles online that offer strategies for how and when to discuss serious topics when in the initiatory dating phase that can be helpful.
And if you are fully honest and they don’t choose to continue chatting then they were not right for you anyway!
From being cautious about sharing personal information and meeting in public spaces to using condoms when enjoying sex with your new flame, protection is a buzzword for online dating. You want to have fun, so think first to ensure all goes well.
Do not give out your address, phone number, work information, and personal email until you have met in person if possible. Some choose to share email and phone number in order to set up dates or screen out undesirables. It’s a risk to be aware of. The less you give out the less you will have to deal with later.
When you get to the date, keep using your best judgment. Never leave your drink unattended. Do not rush into intimacy. Listen to your intuition. Are you feeling safe and respected on the date? Consider all your options and make plans to meet again if you enjoy each other’s company.
When the sparks start to fly and the early confusion passes you will be glad you were careful. Now you are free to have fun and savor this carefully crafted relationship!
Alex Reddle, expert in dating online. Leading a blog of web-site Flirt.com. Have degree in Psychology, so fields of interpersonal relationships, love, finding a partner are relative to me.